Deciding Between Practicality and Humanity

What is it that helps one make decisions?
Do we do what our heart says?
Or what our mind calculates?

It seems difficult to see which decisions are rightly made,
Some say think from heart and u will stay happy,
Others say be practical, analyze and then decide.

I know that mind and heart never want the same,
What mind develops, is not accepted by heart,
And what heart cherishes, is worthless for the mind,

Is there any way to bring the two to a consensus?
Can we make our mind like what the heart wants?
Or make our heart understand why its right to do what the mind says?

Sad that practicality and humanity doesn’t go hand in hand these days
We get to pick only one of them,
And got to kill the other,
Which many a time leads to not so happy ending,

I wish I never get to decide between my heart and mind,
I would hate to betray any of it,
And only request my heart and mind to be in sync,
And help me decide the best, accepted by both.

The Empty Nest

Thinking about the past, it feels like it happened yesterday,
We lived in our cocoon, unaware of the world spread in front of us,
Eagerly waiting to spread our wings and fly,
Not fly away, but just fly around.

Impatient to see the beauty outside the cocoon,
Wanting to see the world through our own eyes,
Making a promise to fly around,
And come back to the same nest,
Promising to come back for each other

But when would the butterflies get back to the nest,
Each one following the desired route and path,
Each one with different view flying individually,
Each one having an ambition to achieve
Each with a strong will power and desire to conquer,

Stopping at some point, looking back at the past
Thinking about the other, and wishing the best
Wondering if their paths would ever cross again,
Will they ever want to leave what they built?
And fly back to the old nest of joy and happiness.

Somethings to Remember

Work Ethics:

• Integrity means doing what is right, even if it is unpopular, unfashionable, and unprofitable. Actually, especially when it is unpopular, unfashionable, and unprofitable.
  Develop a reputation for honesty and integrity. If you have failed in these areas in the past, your new job is an opportunity to start fresh. It is a reputation you must earn over time. And live up to that reputation at all times, at work and everywhere else.
• Don’t use profanity, even when others do.
• Never tell dirty jokes, racist jokes, or sexist jokes. And simply walk away from those who attempt to share them with you. True ethics are not situational.
• Make good on your promises.
• If you are not sure you can deliver, don’t promise.
• If you are not sure, don’t do it. That’s your conscience talking. Listen closely.
• Always seek the good in others, and they will be more likely to find it in you.

Interpersonal skills:

• Talk 20 percent and listen 80 percent. And avoid those who talk 100 percent.
• Always take the opportunity to praise others who are worthy of praise. If someone has done well, take the time to compliment them. Praise publicly. In front of others whenever possible. And copy their boss if your praise is via e-mail.
• When someone is telling you a story, don’t interrupt. And don’t try to upstage them with a better story of your own.
• Smile. A lot. Even when you feel like frowning.
• If someone is confrontational with you, avoid the confrontation. Take time to cool off before you respond.
• Be the person in your office who makes everyone else smile. Everyone loves a cheerful person.
• Look for solutions, not problems. Anyone can identify problems.
• When someone compliments you for your work, don’t say “It was nothing” or try to talk them out of it. Just say “Thank you” with a smile and move on. Nothing more, nothing less.
• Life isn’t fair. And sometimes work isn’t either. There will be some days when just getting through the day is the best you can do. Wait until tomorrow to see if things clear up. They usually do.
• Don’t be a complainer. Every work environment has a person who somehow feels responsible to fill the role of office complainer. Let someone else fill that role. And ignore them when they attempt to practice their art upon you.
• When you are unhappy on the inside, do your best to stay happy on the outside. You will eventually turn inside out.

Office politics:

• Show respect for your boss in everything you do. Don’t join in when others are boss bashing. It can be contagious.
• As a subordinate, you must be willing to submit to the plans of others. Submission is not found in obeying the requests of those with whom you are in agreement. True submission is found in obeying another when you are not in agreement.
• The work washroom is located at work. Don’t let your conversation change to match the surroundings.
• When you are personally complimented for something that was a team effort, always give proper credit to the team.
• When others begin to criticize, fight the urge to join in the slaughter.
• Be a builder, not a destroyer.

Education and training:

• Know and understand the company training and development program. And take advantage of it.
• Seek to match your training with immediate application of what you have learned. Apply it and it’s yours forever. Don’t apply it and it’s lost.
• Continue your education. Even if you do not pursue a formal degree, make learning a lifelong vocation. What you learn will affect what you earn.
• If you are a “hunt and peck” typist, learn to type properly. It will save you immeasurable time over the course of your career. And keep you from looking silly.
• Become fully computer literate. You don’t have to be a computer wizard, but you do need to become proficient in the use of technology in your work. Stay ahead of the technology curve.
• Learn to become a team player. College rewards individual performance. Employers reward team performance.
• You probably don’t know nearly as much as you think you know. It often takes the maturity of a lifetime to come to this realization, but if you are willing to acknowledge this fact early in life, you will capture a lifetime of learning and growth.

Financial:

• There is more to life than the endless accumulation of wealth. There will never be enough money. You must find your wealth elsewhere in your life.
• Money does not buy happiness. Happiness is found in being content with who you are and what you have.
• Sign up for your 401(k) plan as soon as possible and have 10–15 percent automatically deducted from your paycheck. You will never have it, so you will never miss it. And you will be well taken care of later in life while others continue to struggle just to survive.
• Always pay your bills on time. Especially credit cards. And student loans. An unblemished credit record is an asset that should be cherished and protected.
• Don’t run a monthly balance on your credit card. If you can’t pay it off, don’t buy it.
• When someone offers you “the opportunity of a lifetime” in the form of multi-level marketing (a/k/a MLM, a/k/a network marketing), save your time and professional reputation with a polite yet firm “No thanks.”
• Regarding any financial venture or investment, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

Extracurricular:

• Limit yourself to one glass of beer or wine when dining out with coworkers or clients. And wait for someone else to order liquor first—don’t be the only one.
• Don’t drink at all at the holiday party or other company social activities—besides, it’s much more fun to watch others who are drinking.
• Beware of office romances. Keep personal matters outside the work environment.
• Join a health club. Go before work, during lunch, or after work two or three times a week. It will increase your level of energy in your life. You will look better and feel better.
  Skills for a lifetime:
• Life is never exactly what we want it to be. Life just is. It is what we make of life that will bring it nearer to what we want it to be.
• You are the best investment you will ever have. The dividends received on this investment will pay you back for the rest of your life.
• Be proactive in planning for the future. To gain things in the future, you need to pursue them today.
• Expect great things from yourself and hope for great things in others.
• Set goals in your life. Break down your long-term goals into near-term goals. Then break down your near-term goals into annual goals. Then break down your annual goals into monthly goals. Then break down your monthly goals into weekly goals. Then break down your weekly goals into daily goals. Then break down your daily goals into specific tasks which will lead to results. And make sure it is all down on paper. Then do it. You are on your way to accomplishing all the goals in your life.
• Be observant—learn from the mistakes of others so that they are not repeated in your life.
  When you do make mistakes, take responsibility for them immediately. Denial will only prolong and intensify the error. Acknowledge you were wrong and move on. And do your best not to make the same mistake again.
• Every journey begins with a single step. And with each new step, the objective comes into clearer view.
• Don’t put your ballet shoes in the attic. Do your best to keep your life multifaceted.
• Always give back to those who are less fortunate than you. No matter how hard you have worked to get where you are now, there is always someone who has not had the same opportunities that you have had in life. Do your best to give to help meet the needs of others.
• Stop to smell the roses. And drink in of their fragrance until it emanates from within you.
• t’s not where you start out in life—it’s where you end up.

• And finally, always remember that work should never be your sole purpose in life. No one ever said on their death bed, “I wish I would have spent more time at the office.”
  

The Hedgehog Dilemma

The phrase hedgehog's dilemma refers to the notion that:
(1) The closer two beings come to one another in a relationship, the more likely it might be for them to inflict psychological pain on each other
(2) Yet if they remain apart, they each might feel the roughly-equivalent (psychological) pain of loneliness.

The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid.

Both Schopenhauer and Freud (philosophers) have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state an individual will find themselves in relation to others. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma one is recommended to use moderation in the affairs with others both because it is in self-interest, and also out of consideration for others. The hedgehog's dilemma is used to justify or explain introversion and isolationism.

P.S: Taken from Urban Dictionary and Wikipedia

I Finally Found Someone - Bryan Adams

I finally found someone
That knocks me off my feet
I finally found the one
That makes me feel complete
It started over coffee
We started out as friends
It's funny how from simple things
The best things begin

This time is different
And it's all because of you
It's better than it's ever been
'Cause we can talk it though
My favouite line was
"Can I call you sometime"
It's all you had to say
To take my breath away

This is it, oh I finally found someone
Someone to share my life
I finally found the one
To be with every night
'Cause whatever I do
It's just got to be you
My life has just begun
I finally found someone

Did I keep you waiting? I didn't mind
I apologise, baby that's fine
I would wait forever just to know you were mine

You know I love your hair
Are you sure it looks right?
I love what you wear
Isn't it too tight?
You're exceptional
I can't wait for the rest of my life

This is it, oh I finally found someone
Someone to share my life
I finally found the one
To be with every night
'Cause whatever I do
It's just got to be you
My life has just begun
I finally found someone
And whatever I do
It's just got to be you
My life has just begun
I finally found someone

3 Kinds of People

There are 3 kinds of people breeding on this earth.

One – Who only talk (all the time)
Two – Who only perform (Without analyzing)
Third – Who talk as per the need and perform to achieve a task

I personally have come across the three kinds,
Am not against any of the three kinds,
But I am afraid, I cannot control the disgust look on my face
When someone fAiLs to FoLLow THE SIMPLE RULES OF BEING

So here we go talking about each of their traits

First kind - Talker
The most annoying I find are those who go blah blah blah….
A thing which could be said in 5 simple words,
Would run into paragraphs and minutes, and hours
I wonder, do they even remember the topic they are supposed to talk about?
Or the agenda of the discussion
Because I completely loose track of where it all started
And why on God’s name did it even start
I wish I could escape these conversations and save some time,
But no baby, you are not so lucky,
You need to be physically present, for all the meaningless chats,
Chanting god’s name to control the temper,
And not make it come onto your face with an erect smile
With every breath saying, it’s a matter of seconds,
And waiting eagerly for the seamless conversation to end
And the way these people end their conversation is,
By blowing their own trumpet,
With a gleam of achievement in their eyes (WTF – sorry for the usage)

Now the most important question is,
How to beware of this species?
I personally know many, who fall in this category,
In the first instance they may look very intelligent,
But believe me they are extremely annoying and dumb,
These people don’t care whether you are interested in the conversation,
Since it mostly is one-sided,
And if you are trying to be kind and trying to make sense of their non-sense,
Then you are only inviting trouble,
The only way to get rid of them is:
Politely – By saying “I will catch you later”
Rudely – JUST WALK OUT

Second Kind – Performer (To follow)

NI & A are back together - Time for a Celebration!!

NI, this is for you babe.

Two young girls,
Met in a small world of Bain’s,
To explore the world unrevealed,
Talking and sharing all that they saw,
Chatting and ogling endlessly,
Exploring all that was prohibited,
No limits to their pranks.

NI, riding motor cycle into men’s college,
Still remember her guts and her never die attitude,
Always fun and the zeal to explore,
Could never appeal to Daniel though,
Short skirts and tattoos and eye liners,
Aggravated the dislike of teachers towards her,
Unbothered and carefree she continued,
Till they gave up on her.

Passing Crush

Just like every passing day, there is a passing crush,
Comes and goes with gust of feelings,
Each one stirring different thoughts,
And each one ending for known and unknown reasons :-)

Nobody is Anybody's

Nobody is Anbody's,
Still a heap of expectations,
Waiting, Wanting, giving, caring.
And then one day, everything just goes with the wind
Leaving nothing but only memories
The more you try to erase, the darker they become
The more you try to run away, the more it chases
The more you put them under your pillow, the more often you see them
May be Just face them,
Realize what is lost,
Agree that at some point it was important,
Agree that it was a part of life
And realize that everyone is a passing cloud.